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In Ethiopia, I noticed there are three types of bigotry:

1. Oromo vs. the rest of Ethiopia – Why don’t we see the same level of racism directed at groups like the Gurage or Welayta people? Everywhere you go, there is racism towards the Oromo people. Why has the whole nation been collectively racist towards them throughout Ethiopian history?

2. Orthodox vs. Protestant – Like bro, I just don’t get what the beef is. Both of you share the same religion, yet you hate each other to the bone. The hate usually doesn’t even stem from doctrinal differences, but rather from how the religion is practiced. And no one gives a fuck about the Catholic people or other Christian denomination, also no hate towards muslims, it’s just the two fighting it out.

3. Dark-skinned vs. light-skinned people – You guys have no idea how big the business behind skin-bleaching products is here in Ethiopia and around the world. I don’t know why, but it seems more prevalent in the Muslim community.
What’s sad is that lighter skin is often associated with beauty, wealth, or higher status, while darker skin is clapped, even every ones porn preference is for light skinned ppl , so much so that pornhub got so much backlash that it is racist for not recommending dark skinned content ,when they were just pushing content that were getting more views, now it is forcefully suggesting dark skinned content to avoid racism.

How is it that we ridicule flat earthers but don’t treat evolution deniers the same way? How is it that no one questions the fact that germs exist—things we can’t even see with the naked eye—but deny the fact of evolution, that all life on Earth is genetically connected through common ancestry when we can see the resemblance of apes with each other? How is it that no one doubts germ theory—that germs cause disease—but doubt the theory of natural selection, even after we literally watched Covid evolve in real time: mutating, adapting, and demonstrating survival of the fittest right in front of us?

Evolution being true means that the creation story, as it's written, cannot be true that humans were created separately. If the creation story is not true, then Adam and Eve never existed to commit original sin. If original sin isn't a thing, then the world isn't broken because of sin, we've never needed saving from sin, no reason for atonement, and God had no reason to murder himself to himself in the form of Jesus. Now that we know almost all of the bible contain scientific and historical discrepancies (Origin of Humanity , Noah’s flood,Tower of Babel,Zombies of Jerusalem..)

I ask is the Christian God Drake? A master manipulator and a habitual liar too with a taste for minors.

Some people bring up stats that show there's a lower divorce rate among couples who were virgins when they married. But correlation doesn’t mean causation. There could be multiple reasons for that. For example, people who stay virgins till marriage are mostly religious, and religion shuns divorce. So they might choose to stay in a dysfunctional relationship rather than leave. People raised with abstinence-focused values may also have different expectations about marriage, sex, or gender roles, which may influence both relationship dynamics and how they report marital satisfaction. In other words, the lower divorce rate might not reflect healthier relationships—it could just reflect stronger pressure to stay, even when leaving would be the better option, it doesn’t prove that virginity causes stronger marriages.

At the end of the day, society needs to get over itself and recognize that women are no different from men when it comes to desire, love, and autonomy.

My ex once told me a phrase that still sticks with me. She said, “A lock that opens to any key is trash, but a key that opens every lock is gold.” Even when talking trash about people we know, she used to trash the women for their body count, but for the men, she’d say, “Props to him.” Ironically, she turned out to be the trash when she cheated.

Even my mom thinks the same way. Even when she knows I’m in an exclusive relationship, she always says, “How are your women?”—always mentions them as plural, as if I’m dating multiple women at the same time. It’s pretty fucked up. Why is the body count of men prized and referred to as stud-ness, but for women, it’s slut-ness? Even at home, when my mom discovers I’m in a serious relationship, she congratulates me, but if it were my sister, she would gut her alive. Not to mention when a married woman decides to leave a man because he cheated, family and friends say, “Give him a break, he’s only a man, it’s in their nature.” It’s insane that we don’t have a word for male promiscuity, but we have multiple for women—and it’s like that in every language.

Why is the timidness of females and the wildness of males encouraged throughout human history? In places like Afghanistan, if there’s even a small whiff that a woman is suspected of being with a different partner than her husband, she’s buried halfway into the ground so she can’t move—and then stoned to death—while the man exploits loopholes to wife multiple women. How is it, in such a modern century, that we still think of women as less than men? And even worse,women believe this too.

People usually respond to this by saying, “Well, the woman is at more risk for being promiscuous because of pregnancy.” While it’s partially true, when you think about it—although men don’t physically get pregnant—the man has the same chance of getting someone pregnant. That’s basically like being pregnant too, you know? So whether it’s a man or a woman, both face the consequences of pregnancy if they have sex. This argument never made sense to me. Not to mention, she isn’t being promiscuous just full of failed rlns.

And society pressures females to stay virgins, while also pressuring men not to be virgins. The concept that a woman’s value decreases if she isn’t a virgin before marriage doesn’t make sense to me. It’s as if marriage is some concert-proof that the man won’t leave. Society acts like they never heard of divorce. Whether it’s in marriage or not, relationships can fail. It never made sense to me to stay a virgin until marriage if both people are in a trusting, long-term relationship. Even if not—why they shouldn’t be intimate? I think sex plays an important role in maintaining a healthy relationship.

If the girl I’m dating isn’t a virgin, that only means she trusted someone before, and it didn’t work out. That’s it. Why should I judge her for her failed relationship? Because if I’m dating her, I expect her to trust me too, and we’ll have sex. But still, that relationship might fail. The next guy she dates might see me as a dog for “ditching her after sex,” but I didn’t. Sex is just a part of the relationship. Having sex with her has zero correlation with why the relationship failed. I’m not ignorant of the fact that some people only use others for sex—but instead of judging that person, we judge the girl who sincerely trusted that person to be the real deal.

6.Gay people can’t get married - Why not ? The dictionary defines marriage as the legally or formally recognised union of two people as partners in a personal relationship , how does being in a gay rln not fall in this definition if it to get recognition of their union-ship by family and friends and the law. And marriage has been redefined numerous of times throughout history- from property arrangements to acquiring woman as an object proprety to love based unions not to mention there was marriage of same sex couple before the spread of xriainity like the great emperor Nero marrying men in a large ceremony and instances of same sex union-ships in history across many places like Egypt, China , Japan…

7.They need help for their wrong way of living - Is two loving adults living together and having consensual sex a right way of living but when it is for gays it’s wrong, what is a right way of living to being with - the world has so much diversity for example, in Madagascar ppl dig up their dead relatives body out of the grave and chill with them at their homes for a couple of days before putting them back in , for some this is a wrong way of living for them it is the norm . And trying to change that way of identity of being gay never proved to efficative. Conversation therapy has been tried, and not only does it fail but resulted in trauma and suicide. Matter in fact nowadays since all it does is cause actual harm it’s banned in many countries and is a crime to do so.

At the end of the day there is no logical, scientific , moral , or legal reason to criminalise it. The only thing behind anti gay law is old prejudice, fear , and hate dressed up as tradition or morality.

The real crime is not homosexuality - it’s criminalising ppl for who they are which is an infringement of international human rights.

Crime is defined as an act that causes harm to individuals or society. So, what’s the harm in being gay?

1.Homosexuality leads to extinction because they are infertile - First, humanity is not at risk of extinction due to population decline when we have 8 billion humans and matter in fact in Ethiopia we are dealing with over population for our economoy matter in fact we will benefit from the reduction. Second , this is assuming that the number of homosexual people would somehow grow to an extreme- like to 7-8 billion, That’s the only scenario where this fear of extinction could even being to make sense, and we never see any sings of that happing. Third , same sex couples can and do have children- through adoption , surrogacy, IVF….In fact , by adopting , they provide loving homes for children who might otherwise grow up in institutions. How is that not a contribution to society but a crime. Fourth , approximately 165 million indviuals worldwide are infertile should we arrest them for their inability to conveive? What about married couples who choose not to have kids or single individuals who remain unmarried? If the goal is to penalise non-procreation, why only gay people, And why do we owe the word babies?

2.Homosexuality is unnatural - The question isn’t whether something is natural the question is: is it harmful. Even if- So what’s the harm , So is being left handed (only about 10% of the population) why not criminalise those traits for being unnatural. Smartphones, Vaccines , Heart transplants are unnatural too. Ironically , homosexuality isn’t unnatural at all , studies show if one identical twin is gay the other has about 40-50% chance of being gay too - strongly suggesting biological basis. And homosexuality is observed in over 1500 animal species and the individuals exhibiting exclusive same sex behaviour , refusing to mate with the opposite sex.

3.Goes against tradition - Slavery, child marriage, denying woman’s right was once a tradtion now are recognised as unjust. Tradition is not a synonym for justice especially when it’s used to justify oppressing a miniortity . Oppressing a minority because their existence challenges cultural norms is the antithesis of democracy , which protects individuals freedoms against majority tyranny . In Ethiopia, xriaian and muslim view Hindus practices like idol worship as offensive for their beliefs, some minority ethic groups like the Hamars or Mursi walk naked or follow rituals alien to urban Ethiopians. Why not arrest them too? If “Tradition“ becomes the basis for criminal law , them anyone different becomes a potential criminal. Justice means safeguarding the rights of all , not enforcing cultural conformity.

4.Opens a floodgate to more gay - Again so what’s the harm , this assumes that ppl suddenly turn gay because they’re allowed to that it is a choice or contagion- which is absurd as saying ppl become straight because they see straight couples on TV. Sexual orientation is not contagious one is gay the same way one is straight. You can’t recruit someone into being gay any more than you can recruit someone into liking Indomine. If more ppl feel safe coming out , it’s not because there are suddenly turning gay but more of them no longer fear punishment for existing. And societies with greater acceptance like Netherlands show no evidence of social collapse or harm from increased visibility of queer identities.

5.Religion opposes homosexuality. Last I checked we live in a secular state , laws must be based on reason and evidence not religious doctrine , and one should assess if that religion is worth following if its not loving and inclusive , For example, The xrtiain god loves slavery and misogyny and punishes animals with suffering for the sins of humans and designing a world were we have have to eat to survive and designed the g-spot but at the same time urges us not to use it, So should we base our laws based on such religions.